As I reflect on the year, I realize more
and more that life isn't always about getting what you deserve. It's about us
all being on different trajectories. The reality is that everyone has the
same opportunities at being happy. It's about the choices we make and
understanding how it shaped our experiences. The better we are at understanding why we chose what we
did, the closer we get to actualizing our goals.
The things that we experience are
temporary. It changes as our perception of the experience
changes. Everything has its own unique trajectory. Imagine a ball in
flight. The speed and direction in which it travels is dependent on the amount
of force exerted onto the ball, the angle of your wrist, your strength for it to travel. The same principle can be
applied to our everyday lives. Each person's trajectory possesses its own
unique set of qualities that is directed by each decision we make.
What it yields is dependent on the decisions we make around the goal
we want to achieve. The better we understand our experiences, we get a better
sense of what we need and then we are better aligned to encounter the right set
of circumstances and people.
This year, in addition to
your New
Year's resolution, write a letter to
your 2012 self itemizing the things that you gained, how you grew,
and what you're appreciative of. Whether you: grew from the ordeal of a
break-up, divorce, found the love of your life, found a job, got laid-off,
gained more customers or started your own business. Think about each thing that
you would like to continue and things that you would like to grow
from. Everything we go through brings us closer to what we need to actualize
our dreams or brings about our happiness. If your goal is to be a better
partner in your relationship (your trajectory), think about how your
communication style may have improved in the last year
or conversely how it can be improved in the coming year
(your decision making process). Whatever the situation is, think about what led you to
that moment and what you intended on happening. If it is what you intended,
apply that formula to other situations. If it wasn't, revise the
process by being more congruent with what you want to achieve. Sometimes when
we see it written, we are better able to see some of the incongruence very
clearly. When I have reflected on my past experiences, I realized that the
qualities and circumstances that I was seeking was the opposite of what I was
experiencing. Hope this helps you have the best year yet!
Have
a happy, healthy & prosperous New Year!
